Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific...

Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise—that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.

In How to Be the Love You Seek, Dr. Nicole LePera offers a new path to healing our relationships and teaches us to recognize how unmet needs from our earliest relationships create our current dysfunctional patterns. Harnessing the latest scientific research, she illuminates the way out of trauma bonds and into relationships rooted in mutual respect and compassion. After all, it is our heart's innate capacity to love that is the true source of healing. When we tap into that power, we can become the love we seek.

Complete with stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical tools, How to Be the Love You Seek offers a healing road map for all generations of cycle-breakers.